[Xmas Day 11] What's Worthier Than Your Network?
On the eleventh day of Christmas, my true love sent to me...
Hello, friends of Yours,Yan
🎄 On the eleventh day of Christmas, my true love sent to me…
A TRUE WORTH’S KISS
It’s Christmas Eve here in Singapore. While many are celebrating over turkey, honey-baked ham and log cakes, I am sitting here contemplating about something deeper.
Perhaps this topic might not be the best time given the festivity buzzing in the air, but something in me says, there is never a wrong time when it comes to contemplation of the deeper topics in life. Someone out there might need to hear this today.
Besides, I tend to gravitate towards deeper conversations over superficial ones.
What’s In Our Worth?
Lately, I am ruminating on the word “worth”.
Worth is, sort of, equivalent to the value of anything or anyone.
According to Investopedia, “net worth refers to the value of the assets a person or corporation owns, minus the liabilities they owe. Simply put, take all your cash, property value, stocks, and any other form of income and subtract all your debts, loans, and liabilities.”
That numeric figure is our net worth.
But Is our network truly our net worth?
Former Yahoo! director Tim Sanders once said, “your network is your net worth”. It stuck with me when I first heard it. I felt that this was an unhealthy way for us to look at our net worth, as we may become transactional with our relationships.
After nearly 10 years of figuring how to make money, I have my reasons of why Tim Sanders got it wrong.
Instead, I am going with “your self-worth is your net worth”.
Self-worth versus Net worth
According to American Psychological Association, self-worth is a form of internal self evaluation of how we perceived ourselves as a human being who brings value of any kind, deserving of respect from others and be considered. It comes with a high degree of self-acceptance and self-esteem.
When we have a high sense of self-worth, we walk with an aura of inner peace, confidence and security. We radiate a sense of authentic aura that truly magnetizes all the riches and gold in the world.
Our net worth can also be a combination of a series of our achievements, creation, and the value we bring to communities and humanity.
Perceptions can break or make our worthiness.
How we see ourselves reflects our attitudes and actions. If we see ourselves as someone who is never going to be worthy by however you define it, then even no amount of network can increase your net-worth.
How we see ourselves becomes the most important, valuable, and priceless possession one can ever have. Because that fundamentally dictates how you strategize, take actions, and most of all, make decisions.
And when we “fail” in an endeavor, with a high self-worth, the chances are we won’t feel like a complete slum.
Instead, our high self-worth will spur us to keep rising, pursuing and moving forward searching for a new pursuit, until we find our ultimate sense of satisfaction and fulfillment, becoming a truly net worthy person.
Confessions from a recovering low self-worth person
My perceived low self-worth had bugged me for decades.
I hid my insecurities by burying myself in work, workouts, or just being busy for being busy.
I hid my insecurities by shutting myself completely from others, or by masking it with being the always positive and happy one.
In my quiet times, I struggled feeling that I am worthy of love, of joy, of happiness, of financial abundance, of health, of freedom, and of a wonderful committed relationship.
I struggled because I noticed that everyone around me were advancing in their careers, houses, investments and possessions. I felt like an odd one out whenever conversations start to revolve around these topics.
Yet, I have witnessed time and time again, that even when one had increase in these tangibles, they don’t seem truly happy in life. Their deeper lack of high self-worth were covered by their constant need to chase for more dollars, in exchange for their quality of health and relationships.
On paper, my net worth is less than $50k right now, even as a late 30-ers. I am now less embarrassed to say this because I am assured that once I understand where my true self-worth lies, my net worth will increase.
That’s one of my few newfound focuses in 2023 moving forward.
I am still learning to better my self-worth.
💝 DAY 11 GIFT FOR YOUR HEALTH AND WELL-BEING
Decluttering for a tranquility of your mind, heart and spirit.
If you have some time for next few days, pick a time to declutter your space.
It doesn’t have to be the entire house, if it feels too daunting.
Just pick a spot.
Set a timer (because we know how when we go through our things, we may start to go down the memory lane, and before we know it, 4 hours had passed and we have not cleared a quarter of the “junk”. LOL)
Play your favorite playlist, podcast or call a friend as a decluttering buddy!
And just begin clearing.
💝 YOUR TURN
Have you struggled with self worth? How did you manage this? How had your network change as a result?
What’s that one pivotal moment that transformed you upwards and onwards towards being a more authentic you?
Stay warm everyone.
Till the last day of Christmas gifts from me,
Yours,
Yan ❤️
Psst…Read and find out what my true love gave to me on
[Day 1] My 12 Days of Christmas Gift For Your Health and Well-Being
[Day 2] What I Have Been Noticing In The Wellness Space And It Is Irking The He** Outta Me
[Day 3] What Do You Call The Spirit That Is In The Air, The Feeling That We All Share?
[Day 5] A Secret Tool That May Help You Stay In Your Lane For The New Year
[Day 6] How To Find Balance in Heightened Emotions For The Rest of The Year
[Day 7] How A Perfectionist Found The Courage to Collaborate
[Day 8] Do You Audit Your Friendships, Just Like You Would Audit Your Bank Balance?
[Day 9] The Effortless Way To Active And Graceful “Aging” Continues
[Day 10] Smile, Breathe and Say Cheese
💭 QUOTE FOR THOUGHT
“A real conversation with a good friend can be so powerfully healing. Sometimes, what you really need is to be truly vulnerable and feel completely seen. Connecting with them at such a deep level can leave you feeling lighter and refreshed.” - Yung Pueblo
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